God: desires holiness…
1 Peter 1:15-16 (KJV) “But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.”
In our society today, we have a lot of self help classes which is geared at us improving ourselves. Teaching us how to walk, how to talk, how to behave appropriately, how to interact with other; you name it, there is a class aimed at getting us ready.
In our relationship with God, He also has some requirements of us and the good thing with Him is that He has given us His spirit to teach us and lead us into all truth; this Spirit also acts as a Comforter when we get into the mode of needing that extra attention.
It all requires that we put the time into it; take the time to be what He wants of us; take the time to grow and learn His expectation.
It will work out fine after a while.