Matthew 6:14-15 (KJV)”For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”.
Sometimes you can get into some very hairy situations when through no fault of yours offenses comes about; you end up being the one losing out on things which might be material in possession and the manner in which the lost occurs tend to create a deep chasm within you that brings about unending pain (so you would think at the time).
Then time goes by without contact or with avoidance of those who would have caused the hurt and the pain ebbs, not go away, it is deadened to some extent and you bring yourself to believing it is okay. I know someone can understand what I am saying: you are justified in withdrawing and trying to heal the hurt, but that only helps you to a point, yes?
What happens when you meet up on the one or the situation where the hurt came about, how would you deal with such a situation? Isn’t it the case that end up feeling sorrow for that individual who had hurt you? Yes it can be when you run into that one, there is great sorrow within your heart that causes such unbearable pain that you wonder; you ponder on why, how, what?
Forgiveness is immediately behind that feeling; but Jesus wants us to forgive before such a meeting, before too much time has elapsed. You see dealing with the situation sooner rather than later, helps you not the person per se. It releases the angst, the hurt, the creepy feeling within you. Forgive and get rid of it and then you are free.
Jesus had the right of it; forgive, even if you don’t want to, because you are more important to Him than any number of sacrifices. It hurts, but do forgive….