You might not understand, but I need to mourn: There is a time for everything under the sun!
“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance” (Ecclesiastes 3:4 KJV).
Life can throw you some unexpected curve balls and some of us quickly freeze up when this happens and can be (truthfully), useless in assessing and dealing with the situation. One such situation which can create this personality change within us is the death of a loved one or someone very close to us.
If it has never happened to you, it is an experience we all have to deal with, because according to the inerrant word of God, “it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment” (Hebrews 9:27 KJV). It might take a long while to occur, but it will happen.
It is quite interesting though that from my perspective: why do I believe I have authority to speak on this? Taking into consideration the number of deaths I have had to deal with in my family; additionally, having been a most outstanding member of the Color Guard in the Navy: this was one of our duties.
When dealing with losses of this nature, it is needful and required for those experiencing this momentous loss, to mourn appropriately: cry, bawl, roll around in the dust if that is your preference (they won’t call the men in white coats just this once); mourn until your body, emotions, spirit, soul and your thought process can understand and deal with the loss. It is important to mourn. The body needs it, so give into the craving of mourning.
There is a wonderfully beautiful story in God’s word in Genesis 50 of Joseph who had been separated from his family for a long period through deception. He is finally reunited with them after a season of trial and growth, but one of the persons who he felt a lasting pang from this separation was from his father Jacob.
The story goes on to show their reunion: father and son. Jacob was at an advance period in his life and he died some time after the reunion. For Joseph this lost was brutal, but he did what he knew how as a trained and adopted Egyptian: he mourned, “And Joseph commanded his servants the physicians to embalm his father: and the physicians embalmed Israel. And forty days were fulfilled for him; for so are fulfilled the days of those which are embalmed: and the Egyptians mourned for him threescore and ten days” (Genesis 50:2, 3 KJV).
Likewise, the preparation of the body and final procession and disposal of Jacob was picturesque as befitted the father who loved him and whom he loved in return, “And Joseph went up to bury his father: and with him went up all the servants of Pharaoh, the elders of his house, and all the elders of the land of Egypt, And all the house of Joseph, and his brethren, and his father’s house: only their little ones, and their flocks, and their herds, they left in the land of Goshen. And there went up with him both chariots and horsemen: and it was a very great company. And they came to the threshing floor of Atad, which is beyond Jordan, and there they mourned with a great and very sore lamentation: and he made a mourning for his father seven days. And when the inhabitants of the land, the Canaanites, saw the mourning in the floor of Atad, they said, This is a grievous mourning to the Egyptians: wherefore the name of it was called Abel-mizraim, which is beyond Jordan” (Genesis 50:7-11 KJV).
What’s the point of this little story? You might be the head of a family; the son, daughter of someone who died; it might even be your lover who you never got around to being married, but: “YOU LOVED” until now they aren’t here anymore and it hurts something awful. Mourn, let it out, and remember all the good things about that person. Some might not even have had good traits to everyone, but to you, that’s the best thing that ever happened to your life: Mourn.
Then live your life with meaning and purpose; make up in your mind that you will make a substantive difference in someone’s life for the good. AND LIVE. Go out on a very high note.